March 4, 2026
James Lott Jr. with granddaughter Scarlet on her 21st birthday visit

Scarlet Turns 21: A Letter from Papa Jamie

A grandfather's letter to his granddaughter on her 21st birthday. Wisdom on identity, relationships, risk, and becoming. For every young woman standing at the edge of adulthood - and the grandparents who love them.
February 6, 2026
Grandparent and adult child having respectful conversation about financial boundaries and support expectations

Discussing Finances With Adult Children

Half of parents give adult children $1,474 monthly. For grandparents, discussing finances feels impossible. Learn how to set financial boundaries with compassion while protecting your retirement security and their independence.
January 27, 2026
Grandparents reviewing retirement finances, representing the importance of protecting financial security while supporting family

Setting Financial Boundaries as a Grandparent

Half of parents provide $1,474 monthly to adult children. For grandparents, setting financial boundaries isn't about withholding love. It's about fostering independence, protecting retirement security, and creating healthier relationships across generations.
January 14, 2026
A family of 3 generations happily spending quality time .

When Good Grandparents Go Wrong

New research on 11,434 children reveals that grandparent-parent alignment matters more than involvement amount. When boundaries break down, children internalize conflict, showing increased anxiety and behavioral problems decades later.
January 7, 2026
A couple of parents looking at their parent talking happily with their child creating connections.

The 11th Commandment: Honor the Parents

The 11th Commandment of grandparenting isn’t “Thou shalt agree with the parents.” It is “Thou shalt honor the parents of your grandchildren.” You don’t have to like every choice they make—but respecting their role keeps the gate open to your grandchildren and builds true family harmony.
December 12, 2025
An upside down image that co-relates with Neil's signature updsidedown hug

What on Earth is an Upside-down Hug?

A simple, silly ritual like an Upside-Down Hug can create lifelong memories. Grandparents who build unique traditions give their grandkids connection, identity, and love that lasts for decades.