To say that being a grandparent today is a bit complicated is like saying Calculus is 1+1=2.
While some of the fundamentals remain the same, things have evolved tremendously. The basics like, “I want to be the best Grandparent I can be” or “I want to share my life with these little cherubs and guide them to a meaningful and successful life.” The trick is doing the things in familial relationships that help you achieve that goal.
In my first Grandparents’ book, I concluded, “Life is complicated, Family life is a multiple of complicated, and extended family life is exponentially complicated.” To use a colloquial metaphor, “Just chew on that one for a moment.
We aim to rail at the heavens and scream, “I liked life better in the good old days.” First, they may be the old days, but I don’t know how good they were. Second and more to the point, “It doesn’t matter what you like, the reality is, well, the reality!”
How much do you want to pay to be right?
The first step to being a GOOD Grandparent in today’s world is to be really, really, really clear about the landscape.
I have studied this subject extensively for over 10 years and can help you calibrate your compass as a Grandparent in today’s world. Let’s start with the United States of America Constitution mentioning Grandparents’ rights. However, there are 4 mentions of parent’s rights in varying degrees of specificity. (No fair arguing with me; I didn’t write it.) Based on that fact, let me give you one of the most meaningful tools I have developed to help you navigate your grandparents’ journey in today’s times. Arm yourself with this question………” How much do you want to pay to be right?”
When I came to that realization, I stumbled upon a bit of wisdom that goes far beyond Grandparenting. That question will come in handy every day of your life in all circumstances. However, I digress. The other tool in your Grandparenting toolbox is to do everything, let me repeat that, EVERYTHING, with the best interest of your Grandchildren in mind.
I applaud your intent, and together, we, as Grandparents, can add massive value to our families by being mindful of showing up as our Highest and Best Self.
Thank You for being a Caring Grandparent.
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