February 4, 2017
The birth of each grandchild, aside from being a undisputed miracle, starts a magic transformation in a Caring Grandparent. According to Lesley Stahl’s new book “BECOMING GRANDMA” there is an actual chemical change that aids this bonding process. I don’t know about you all but I have been hopelessly smitten with each and all of my Grands and Great Grands with or without any chemical change. I am in awe of every one of them. At the same time I am acutely aware of the ripe opportunity I have in this unique relationship between Grandparent and Grandchild. I hold the […]
January 30, 2017
The battle to win Grandparents rights is long, hard and not often rewarding in the short term. That is not to say that it is not worth it. It is only to say that Grandparents Rights may better be seen as Grandparents privileges. Since Grandparents rights aren’t and never will be constitutional it is time for a new approach. I advocate the approach of preemptive mindful actions that allow us a much better chance to be a part of our grandchildren’s lives going forward. I will be talking more about specifics in coming posts but I think we need to […]
February 3, 2016
Most of my posts have been about Grandparents Rights for a good reason. Now and then I come across a story that is so very compelling that it deserves to be shared, My Brother and Sister-in-law have some friends that have a huge challenge in their lives right now and I wanted to let the readers of this post know about it and put it on your hearts to share this with others. The subjects of the story are Chris and Jeff Weihl. They are Grandparents to some 14 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren. Of course all 19 are really […]
June 4, 2015
I have taken great pains to explain why there will never be a sweeping single piece of legislation that covers Grandparents Rights. I wish it wasn’t so but that is the reality. I guess the question is; Now what do we do?. The answer is in the state legislatures. An example of progress is the Oregon State House Bill 3014 that has been approved by both houses and is awaiting Gov. Kate Brown’s signature. I have often stated that, especially when it comes to Grandparents Rights, that Logic and Law don’t come together. In the State of Oregon when […]
May 30, 2015
The Supreme Court of New Hampshire rules to preserve the grandparents visitation rights even if a child’s parents die and they are adopted. This is a sure sign that New Hampshire, at least, recognizes “The best interest of the child” and the need for stability and continuity in their lives. I have said before that especially during times of family unit upheaval children need more love and sense of security, not less. I take this and other baby steps as a sign that logic may prevail to the benefit of our grand children. Thank You for being a Caring […]
March 29, 2015
Grandparents Rights, while logical, are beset with many complications and unintended consequences. that is why I spelled out each of Senator East’s 6 points. The path to any semblance of fairness has to come through the states. The first 7 parts of this series outlined Senator East’s charge to the subcommittee as they took testimony regarding Senate Concurrent Resolution 40. “The purpose of this hearing is to listen to some testimony pertinent to the problems of Grandparents Visitation Rights. what the United States Senate can do, I do not know, but I certainly come to this task of the hearing […]
March 11, 2015
In his pursuit of thoroughness, Senator East added this final question to the charge for the subcommittee to consider should they move to draft a bill for Grandparents rights. “What safeguards should there be for the abuse of any right or privilege granted to grandparents?” to qualify and clarify his question he goes on to say; “Child custody and child support are, already, significant problems in the United States. There may be as many as 300,000 (1983 numbers) incidents of child-snatching or related kinds of behavior in this country per year. This behavior continues notwithstanding enormous efforts to curtail child […]
March 6, 2015
I applaud you if you have gotten this far in this series but I guarantee you this is an essential part of understanding Grandparents Rights and the path to the only thing that matters; “The best interest of the child”. Today’s post deals with the 5th of 6 questions that Senator East posed in an attempt to standardize and federalize the issue of Grandparents Visitation Rights. His question was; “5.) If grandparents are to be given access to the courts to obtain the privilege or right to visitation with grandchildren, should there be obligations assessed, as well, for the support […]
March 1, 2015
Another one of the 6 issue Senator East wanted considered was; 4) If access to courts to adjudicate Grandparents Visitation Rights is to be permitted, who shall bear the cost of that litigation? “The Uniform Marriage and Divorce Act gives the court discretion to assign one party’s cost and attorney fees to another party, based upon a consideration of the resources of both parties. This is an example of what has been done to allocate costs when they become a financial burden upon one party or another.”……….. ………..”Some states, I believe, have mandatory requirements for representation of the child. Cost […]
February 26, 2015
In part 4 of THE STATE OF GRANDPARENTS RIGHTS I want to highlight how difficult this issue is. As Grandparents we need a little perspective on this issue. It is excruciatingly hard to stand by and watch a disintegrating family unit using their children as a lever to punish their spouse. This is precisely where we as Caring Grandparents need help. We must also understand that the complexity of the need for Grandparents rights lends itself to unintended consequences as well. Let’s take a look at the third Question this subcommittee wrestled with. Senator John East raise the following question and […]